Dear Grace

For me the most fascinating thing about menopause was that I didn’t even realize I was going through it.  I thought it was years away. Nope. As it turns out I was right in the midst of it… erratic periods, memory issues, couldn’t put a sentence together… thought I was losing my mind – it was very frustrating and troubling.  I couldn’t figure it out.

At about the same time I happened to be out on the sales floor of the pharmacy where I worked and I felt this tug at my elbow. I turned and a woman, aged about forty, whispered “Can you help me? I think I’m going crazy.”  But I didn’t know how to help.

A few years later I was travelling on business and I pulled into the parking area for the B & B where I was staying and this woman (in her late forties), who had been working in her garden, immediately strived over to the car. As I got out she asked me if I was the guest that worked at the pharmaceutical place. Before I could answer she said she needed medication and could I help her. She wasn’t sure what drug, she just knew she needed help. “There has to be something”, she said.  But I didn’t know how to help.

I did not connect the dots. It never occurred to me that all three of us were going through peri-menopause. We were all living in small towns and we just didn’t know where to turn.

If I’d known then what I know now, then things could have been so different …


Dear D,

Reading this made me smile.

The simple fact is you are not alone! How you feel is how many of us feel and what a blessing to know we have a platform to reach out and confirm we are not alone in this ‘crazy journey’.

It’s like a bad movie some days. To enter into this stage of our lives can be very confusing and even more difficult to identify and acknowledge the changes.

The most important part however  – there is light at the end of the tunnel. Like you, I’ve come to realize that I’m not losing my mind and pretty normal, all things considered.



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